room for improvement

Learning never stops and it comes from all quarters. These days I have had the good fortune of eating my ego and having it punctured. There is this lovely lady in office, a colleague who has this disarming style of talking and puncturing my ego. Normally I don’t take too kindly to advise. Most don’t know what they are talking about or don’t understand you or are too shallow to really help. The vast majority don’t even care too much about you to really help you. This lady is able to influence by her unique style of not really advising but by merely pointing what she sees and putting in a way that hits me hard. I have been advised by a few friends to go for Vipassana and meditation. But I find that impossible to go for giving my high ego and general intolerance for saintliness. I hate those self help books and discourses designed to help you see light. Instead I love it when people talk about their experience and what they saw in real life and what they interpret out of them. This chick is able to make me see light by merely questioning what I do. No one has so far been able to tell me how to talk or behave with Jasmine. Once while overhearing a phone conversation she was able to ask some basic questions which made me realise my mistake and helped me immediately improve my behaviour. Not that it was too much of a change. It wasn’t like a change from negative to positive, but a small subtle shift that I am sure would go a long way. After being in love for 22 odd years with Jasmine, it does come as a rude jolt that I need to improve, in whatever way possible. Sigh... there is always room for improvement. People change if they want to. They change when they want to. It doesn’t make sense to force or attempt to change them. One only needs to question and ask correctly. That is all that is required. The rest flows. I take credit for wanting to change, recognising the need to change but she takes a whole host of credit for showing me how to.
It’s nice to be around 35/36. You can have good adult conversations with those even 6 years younger to you. That improves your scope for conversation tremendously. You have so many mature people to choose from.
Speaking about gurus... I can’t handle the gurus and the books they write. Keeping in line with my ego status, I really don’t understand how such apparent commonsense crap is being sold. Today I just happened to catch a Deepak Chopra book and he seems to be in the same market as Robin Shrama. ‘You are a good person and you need to harness your goodness to become great’ genre. The writing is extremely simple and full of promoting self goodness. I think it is meant for people who have forgotten their souls or have sold their souls, and need to be reminded that their souls are meant for greatness and this soulless period is just a temporary phenomenon. I think these books seek to address a vacuum in the same way porn does. Pornography for the soul. You are a great guy with a foot long organ and you just don’t know it yet. Everyone can have a foot long. Yikes... that line sounds like a Subway ad.