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The gross national product does not allow for the health of our children, the quality of their education, or the joy of their play. It does not include the beauty of our poetry or the strength of our marriages; the intelligence of our public debate or the integrity of our public officials. It measures neither our wit nor our courage; neither our wisdom nor our learning; neither our compassion nor our devotion to our country; it measures everything, in short, except that which makes life worthwhile. 

Robert Kennedy

It takes a politician to get the economist to see a saint. I think it’s a lovely quote. Like a perfect politicians quote. It takes something that everyone knows and misunderstands and then wraps a lovely story about what it is not and then completely drives it to the ground by measuring it against something it wasn’t meant to measure.

Gross national product or the GNP. I remember being in an interview once in my B school. I think it was a summer internship with Shoppers Stop. Shoppers Stop was a coveted item in my B school. One of the few companies that was respected in college and wanted to recruit from us. In the interview they had asked me what my favorite subject was. I had practiced the answer in my head. Economics. I knew that one. So great, what’s the difference between GDP and GNP. Huh? Nopes. I did not know that one. I suspect neither did the interviewer. No, I don’t have a story in where I gave an amazingly false answer and got through. I was rejected and failed to get through. How can you like economics and not know this basic difference. Hah!

I remember walking out and then later asking my friend who was an economics post grad.. so what’s the difference. He knew this and answered PAT. It went something like this ‘the GDP (gross domestic produce) is the worth of all the goods and services of Indian and foreign nationals residing in India while the GNP measures the same of all Indian nationals across the world. I haven’t forgotten that in 19 odd years, but I admit that I had to check the internet to ensure that I hadn’t gotten it wrong.

But still, much as I think the quote is completely out of context with GNP left defending what it was not meant to protect, I still love it. Yes, the infatuation for GNP number is possible stupid when you see only one number and try and measure it as a means to know your success. Economics is much different than that. There are various indicators that we must look at but I think GDP or GNP, or both together are still by far the most important numbers for an economist to track to get a fair first idea of the countries well being. Then the next could possibly be the Gini Coefficient. This one measures the inequality in the country. So while you are a great economy and produce truck loads of everything, the Gini coefficient help you understand the difference between making money and spreading it to everyone in your economy. If the Gini coefficient doesn’t improve with the GDP number, you are basically screwing yourself over by creating possibly a class divide in the country and possibly your country smacks of croony capitalism! Then you look at happiness indicators (which are as dumb or as smart as the surveys designed), or other metrics such as mortality, education, womens well being etc.

My favorite over the years is the simple metrics of how a society treats its women is possibly in my mind the best indicator of how a community or a society will develop. Keeping women out of the ambit of decision making, management and general freedom will doom a society faster than anything else. Since 25 years I have been seeing how women are moving the needle in India. From my batch of MBAs that passed out I see a smaller number of them working. Now I see more and more women who take career as a serious choice and not something that they have to do just to pass some time before motherhood takes its toll. They are taking active decisions and are part of the entire spectrum of the work force. I see women who are far more confident now than they were ever before. They move out and take their decisions. You meet some of them on the field and you can see that they are smarter, sharper and more confident of themselves.

It will take a generation for things to change and for a country as a whole, it will take a couple more. Culture is a huge thing and it takes time to change. There must be enough impetus, heros, role models and constant hammering for change to happen.

Today in the morning one the highway I saw a couple walking, with the male having his hand around the women. What was striking was that the couple belonged to a lower income demographic. Normally, this is not done. Earlier only the rich and the famous would do that (when I was growing up), then the young and the happening (like us in college), then it filtered down slowly. And finally – I see the young from a lower demographic doing it like the rich! Now the culture is changing. It takes  a lot. First it has to be cool and desirable behavior and then it gets caught in on popular culture icons, like movies and TV serials, then it moves down and vast. I remember seeing Haridwar many years ago and remarking that the kids from the villages seem to be wearing jeans and the girls are wearing it as well. These girls will grow up wearing jeans and change the lives for themselves and for their families as well.

Women must be encouraged to stand up and manage themselves. They possibly need a little help from the rest of society to help them integrate more easily, but then the sops must be slowly withdrawn. We don’t want them to be softened, we want them as one. No difference. Part of it all.

One small thing I managed to pull off. At Matunga Gymkhana, we are a bunch of men trying to manage the gymkhana. That’s because the rules are stupid. When a family takes membership, it takes it in the primary member’s name and then everyone else in the family joins in. The membership is taken as a single person but mentally everyone takes it as a family. Since the membership is the basis for eligibility for official posts, we have a situation where the management is all male affair. And it stinks. At least when the new restaurant was being designed, I managed to plant a seed in the minds of the powers that be to swap the loos. Give the bigger ones to the women. Surely they require more space. They need atleast two commodes and a lot of space to dress. We men just need a piss pot, one commode and a half mirror. We can manage just right. This got done and I think generations of women will not know who to thank for this small change in their lives at the Gymkhana.

Now my next one – to introduce an amendment that allows spouse of members to take official roles in the management of the Gymkhana. That would again go a long way in the long term management of the Gymkhana.  So the next time I have a suggestion from a woman, i can tell her, sure - we need people like you to help us do what you want us to do. Please join the gang! It will take time. but it will get there.

parenting is a lot like making a nuclear bomb

“Jispa, I hate you combing hair in the car. Your hair are all over and then you don’t collect them and throw them properly. When you throw them out they fly back in. Take your hair and roll them up before you dispose them”

“ok, ok, I am doing that”

“you know my grandmother would comb her hair, roll them in a circle and then before disposing them put the bunch in a folded paper”

“why would you do that?”

“she did that so that the hair don’t get stuck in a little bird’s legs. She was all jain”

“oh, all Jain and all… Hmm.. Why are we not Jain?”

“you are Jain. We are Jain. You were born a Jain”

“no seriously, why are we not Jain, really. Why don’t we practice and all”

“ah. Jasmine and I were religious at one time. Not too much, but we did believe in God and we did go to temples and pray. But then once when we were in Haridwar..”

“there is a story to this as well? There is a story to why we do not follow Jainism”

“oh ya. There is story to that as well”

I have written about this story before. I explained to her the story of how we turned completely non-religious and it was thanks to her. In short when once we were in haridwar and the dam hotel guide happened to be a pujari who made us chant a few mantras before releasing  lamp into the river. Jasmine and I did not bother too much but we saw Jispa repeating like it was important. That day, I told her, that day I took a decision that “you may learn to pray form you grandmother or anyone, but you will not learn to pray from me”.

Yes Jispa, almost everything has a story to it. A lot of what we do is dictated by our interactions with you. A lot of it willingly and a lot of it unwittingly. I don’t we have complains but its true, parenting shaped us much more than we anticipated.

Finally! Jispa and I went to see a movie with each other. I waited 13 years for this day. She is finally into action movies and Jasmine gets tortured watching these thaka thaki movies with no head or tail. Jispa and I went for the X Men Apocalypse yesterday. Quite a sad movie it was. My view is that 13 year old kids are happy with all the special effects and the action heroes doing all kinds of mind bending tricks but nothing can work with an absent story line. It was an ok movie but just going with Jispa for it was well worth the experience. We have stayed next to the IMAX theatre for 10 years now but finally we are enjoying the proximity. The Imax screen does allow for a lovely 3D experience with bright screens and a large format with great sound. It is quite an awesome thing to be staying next to!

When we thought of parenting we hadn’t bargained for all this. We knew it would be fun and that it would change us in a definite sort of way but we did not really know the large consequences of our small action.

This is chaos theory in full action. Chaos Theory or the butterfly effect is basically a theory that explains that small differences in the initial conditions can have large, profound impact with almost unimaginable results. I think parenting is just like that. It is chaos theory in full effect, where you can see it in full action. For Jispa’s upbringing joining Matunga Gymkhana for us was a chaos theory in action. I remember convincing Jasmine to join the Gymkhana. We had a little extra money and the memberships were available. So we joined it and for a year we did not even do much with it. But then we got to the gymkhana and did a tour of the various sports facilities and met the coaches involved. We thought she should play some sport and zeroed in on badminton as the sport she should play. The timings or something matched well. Then we thought that she also might as well learn swimming as that is a life skill. ‘She should at least learn swimming’. This small change in initial conditions changed our life in a way that we could think possible. Now we have a Mumbai champion in the house. We wake up, do our shit and learnt so much about ourselves in the process. Wow. Who would have thought.

Going to the evening aarti at haridwar was a small decision we took and it changed our views on religion in a way that impacted our thinking and possibly impacted Jispa’s religious thought forever. From an atheist mindset, who knows what leap she shall take!

Such is life. Small changes in initial conditions take on a life of their own. They bring about changes in your life that you are completely unable to think through. So why do we even bother about big decisions in our life. These big decisions are most of the time not too smart and in any case we cant really figure out the consequences of what we do. Smaller decisions, like who are friends are, what books we read, whom we talk to, what we experience and what all we want to do, shape us in many ways that we think impossible. I think the simple rule is – try something new. As long as you have exposure to multiple things you have a chance to grow from it. Exposure is the key to it. You have to keep trying in an effort for the chaos theory to take shape. You have to keep making small small initial changes to the conditions you see around you. These will have massive impacts in your life. Not having them is a real problem, because then you don’t have a chance to break through and create systems that are beneficial for you in the long run.

Reading and understanding Physics has contributed more to my understanding of Life and Marketing  than anything else. It is a beautiful science where at some basic level, the new science in physics, especially quantum physics is telling you that - you really don’t know anything for sure. It’s nothing but a chance and you have to give it enough chance to succeed. In my understanding the nuclear bomb design is also the same thing, at some level.

The theory was summarized by Edward Lorenz as: Chaos: When the present determines the future, but the approximate present does not approximately determine the future.

So there you are in simple words, the wisdom of life. Read it, understand it and know it that you don’t know anything in life!