Normally I am not an angry young papa to Jispa. At least I like to believe so. I do shout at her, but my personal rule is – shout only to stop something and scolding is limited to one and max two lines. Then cool down instantly and talk properly. It’s like – JISPA – DON’T TOUCH THIS, (instant cool), Jispa , please don’t do it, if you touch this you would get hurt, how many times we have told you.
Also I was getting into fights that were not my. Jasmine and Jispa are fighting and I am getting involved. I don’t even care about some of the topics. It gets highly stressful to play arbitrator. I don’t like it, but I think I see no option. I try and signal to Jasmine to let go or silently tell her my view (most of the time it’s that I am indifferent). Jasmine is right where she comes from and so is Jispa. Being a father is not easy I guess. Its really taxing.
In the middle I realized Jispa was getting very irritating. I realized that I used to slap her, mildly of course, one time too many. I don’t like giving one rapack and silencing her, unless it’s grossly really bad. I am open to talking. So I told her that now on, no slapping. It’s something that I want to keep a habit of. Absolutely no slapping unless in the rarest of rare cases, that too avoidable. I keep telling her, that I am talking, talk to me, tell me what’s on your mind, I have infinite patience for talking as long you don’t give me crap or as long you listen and respond. No faltu arguments please. And no crying when I am not scolding you or angry. If she cries, I walk.
The other thing I can’t stand is this “whaaaat” word. Everyone knows what someone means or is saying, but I can’t stand it when someone goes “whaaaat” in a condescending manner, with your eyes cocked. Talk properly. I hate the tone that means “what the fu#& is the matter now” ask properly when someone is talking properly. When someone is talking properly, respond properly. Today with V-inu we met Cute cute bingo. V-inu saw that the dog has some skin disease and advised me against touching it. I was telling Jispa about it when she went ‘what’ and before I could answer “whaaat” again. I was in the process of getting her to wash her hands with the water bottle, while talking to her. Oh I so lost it. I just can’t bear that tone. Instead of whacking her in the heat of the moment I splashed water on her. I am sorry. That I think that was worse than slapping her. She sure didn’t like it. While I can justify my anger, I think I was wrong in my reaction. Sorry kid. I screwed up. I WILL splash water on your face next time but not in anger. And please Jispa, don’t screw my happiness later on this confession or else I will jam your happiness. We are quits.
Just for the record, after the ingredients it says – I hate it when only you rub it you will be dead by the dangerous doggi!! (so be careful) by :-> jispa. GRRRR!!
